Friday, March 9, 2012

The Hunger Games for 12 Year Olds!? Give Me a Break!

Parents need to be aware of a book series targeted toward teens that is growing in popularity.  The first one in that series is called The Hunger Games and children, tweens, and young teens are asking for it with excitement.  The story involves a reality TV show where 24 teens are turned loose and must kill each other off trying to be the last one to survive.  The killers use the most primitive weapons available to maim and kill each other.  Violence is the number one issue with this book series.  You may want read it yourself first before deciding to allow your children to read it.  You can purchase it here:
The Hunger Games Trilogy Boxed Set




According to the watchdog Web site Common Sense Media.org, their reviewers have decided that children as young as 12 can read this book series and I completely disagree.  In my opinion, Common Sense Media has lost its common sense.  Although there is little or no sex and drugs in these books, my issue is that the intense level of violence and the whole focus of killing each other is not appropriate for children under 16, the approximate ages of the teens in the story.



I know this is going to raise some eyebrows of parents and parent educators, especially those who lean to the left of allowing children and young teens access to media that might be considered too mature by many standards.  And many are already touting the educational value of these story lines as tools for studying matters of social studies and society.  But children, tweens, and young teens do not need to have their focus pointed toward killing each other, regardless of how valuable the content of media might be.



Case in point, we have a 14-year-old teen daughter at home and with her knowledge, her mother and I monitor the texting conversations she has with her friends.  The majority of her friends are allowed to watch (in many cases) unsupervised television such as Jersey Shore and the Kardashians, and visit unmonitored Web sites such as Omegle and Chat Roulette.  Our teen is not.  What my wife and I have noticed is that the focus of the friends is on adult-natured topics, too often.  They use adult-natured terminology targeted toward sex, drugs, and inappropriate relationships.  It is clear to us that our teenager is influenced by her friends, driving her curiosity more into the realm of adult-natured topics.



The result of this inappropriate influence on our teenager from her friends is a more rapid maturity rate.  So many might want to say to me, “What’s the big deal, they aren’t going to run out and smoke pot or have sex.”  To these people I say, “Your right.”  But why promote the rapid maturity of our teenagers, boys and girls, just because many parents are not engaged in what their teens are being exposed to because they are naïve or lack the courage to set up solid limits and boundaries.


There are two more books in the Hunger Games series and the topic of teens killing teens continues to get worse.  “Catching Fire,” and “MockingJay” move the bloodshed and torture to higher levels, pushing the envelope on violence.  Shame on Common Sense Media for suggesting that 12 year olds can read this.  I encourage you to check out the Kindle ebook, “Media and the American Child,” to see even greater impacts to this rapid maturation of our innocent children.  You can purchase the book here:
Media and the American Child
 

Let’s preserve their childhood as long as we can and stop the parents who freely say, “Oh relax, they are going to see it somewhere.”


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Thursday, March 8, 2012

She Can Text Like Crazy, But Can't Converse One-on-One

I began my latest TV show with the top 10 definitions of a teenager.  One of them went something like, “Someone who can figure out the latest electronic gadget but can’t make his bed.”  While my studio audience thought it was a riot, it doesn’t wander far from the truth.  Our kids and teens have a tremendous technical skills and a huge appetite for TV, video and the Internet screens.  We parents have got to step up to the plate and create more balance in our children’s lives to keep them becoming absorbed into too much technology.


There’s a great article on CommonSenseMedia.org titled, “5Ways to Help Kids Find Balance,” and it serves as a good reminder for parents to come up with other activities for our kids to get involved in.  Like most parents, I would cringe at the thought of hearing the, “I’m Bored,” statement from my kids.”  I can understand why some parents feel the need to just let them be plugged into a video screen because it gives us a break and gives us emotional space to get done what we need to get done.

The article mentions taking measures to find “Off-Line Time” for our kids and that is so important.  One device that I’ve found that is incredibly effective for managing how much screen time your child or teen has is the visual timer "On-Task, On-Time.  Traditional audible timers just don’t work with kids and if you’ve ever been to one of my workshops (http://www.cooperativekids.com) then you’ve seen me demo visual timers and them share how well they work.  Children have great difficulty in experiencing the passing of time waiting for a bell to go off, but when using one of these visual timers, you will gain so much more cooperation from the kids.  Check out these incredibly timers on Amazon now.
On-Task On-Time For Kids


Here’s an item your kids may choose over the video screen more

often than you might think; the trampoline.  Because there have been too many injuries reported on the use of this item, many stores are only selling those with safety features.  On Amazon, you’ll find this state of the art trampoline that includes galvanized steel legs to reduce the chances of it tipping over and the extra padding and safety nets that surround the entire frame are designed to keep your kids safe.  Check this item out on Amazon just in time for the warmer weather to get your kids outside.
Ultega 10-Foot Jumper Trampoline with Safety Net


And to give children an indoor option to blow off some steam, Amazon sells smaller trampolines just big enough for one child.  The best part about these models is that they come with handles for the child to hang on to and not fall off.  One of the best things you can do for your kids is to give them the opportunity to exercise and become more active.  Check out this affordable Safe Bounce Trampoline from the Original Toy Company.

Safe Bounce Trampoline

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Tuesday, March 6, 2012

How to Read Aloud to Young Children

My TV show Creating Cooperative Kids is very close to hitting the 100 station airing mark and may also soon be international.  Today, a TV station in New Zealand downloaded an episode for review.  I'm currently putting together the 12th episode that will be taped on March 19th and one of my segments will feature two amazing women
who wrote the book HELP ME GET READY TO READ.  



If I had written a book on helping children to read in the first five years, this is the book I would have published.  Susan and Barbara put together this practical guide using reading aloud techniques in a way that is sure to motivate most young children into wanting to read.  You're going to want to get your own copy of this book and can purchase it by using the link above to Amazon.  If you're in the Hartford, CT area and want to attend a taping of my show for free, go to www.TheParentingShow.tv and sign up.  You can also watch past episodes there as well.  Learn more about Cooperative Kids at http://www.CooperativeKids.com.