Contest Winners Chosen

As some of you know, I was running a contest for anyone willing to sign up to join this blog, and giving away timers, t-shirts, and books. My latest contest ended yesterday and I just drew the winners. The Timer goes to Bron Mitchell, the T-shirt goes to Paula Comeau, and the book goes to Cathy. If you're one of these folks, email me at bill@cooperativekids.com and provide me with a mailing address. Thank you all for joining and be watching for more subscriber giveaways.

If you want some free help with managing your children's behavior, or help for someone else, stop on over at my Web site http://www.cooperativekids.com/ and see a new Quick Solutions edocument that you can download for free. This new document asks you 4 important questions to help you come up with solutions for effective parenting. Keep in touch and let me know how I can help you.

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Why Love and Logic has it Wrong... Again!

Children don’t often demonstrate respect because they either don’t know what it looks like or, as the Father of Individual Psychology, Alfred Adler taught us, their disrespectful behavior is their way of attempting to get unmet needs satisfied. The secret to getting kids to treat their parents and others with respect is to first treat them with respect and to then help them find their place in the family or the classroom. But the creators of the LOVE AND LOGIC parenting program would have you believe differently. All parenting programs are not created equal and in my opinion, many are misguided and offer parents and teachers bad information. It is my belief that we should not just be demanding and manipulating our kids to be more cooperative, we should be raising children who WANT to cooperate and be engaged in the family or classroom because they feel encouraged to do so. One of those programs that frequently offers misguided information and gimmicks...

When Your Child Says "I HATE YOU!"... They are Really Just Mad

You've done so much for them, slaved for them, and sacrificed for them, and then if you don't give them what they want, they get mad at you. It hardly seems fair, all the things we do for our kids and they don't appreciate it. Then we hear them say things like, "I hate you," or "I hate this house." We hear, "You're a mean mom," or "I'm mad at you!" It's common for kids to get mad at their parents but the solution is the hardest for parents to do... just let them be mad. Effective parents learn quickly that they are not their child's friend; they are their parents. But if the parents aren't prepared to hear it and know how to respond, they get defensive or they get even. Worse, they give in to regain the love the child is withholding. I was in the toy section of a department store one day, shopping for a gift for my grandson. A mom and her little boy were in the same aisle, and the little boy, about seven, was admir...

Why Some Parents Spank

This is for all the parents who set out NOT to spank their children, but end up doing it anyway; you are NOT bad parents, sometimes you just don’t know what else to do. I believe you may get frustrated to the point of using it to gain the child’s attention or as an attempt to stop challenging behaviors immediately. I can say that I've been in your shoes! I raised 3 children of my own and often felt myself get to the point of having the urge to spank. So I feel for parents and know how hard it is when our children push our patience to the upper limits. (Photograph courtesy of David Castillo Dominici and freedigitalphotos.net) I was the oldest of eight children and took notice of my parent’s anger and how it would provoke them to the point of spanking, and they did. I remember having the sense that one or both of them would be bothered by something outside of my control and then I would do something that kids do and it would push them to th...

Bill Corbett

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