20 New Christmas Angels Were Welcomed into Heaven This Morning


Tragedy happens all around us, but when it involves innocent children there are few words that can express the pain any caring person feels.  This morning, a shooter took the lives of 20 innocent school children including several teachers and staff members at a small town school here in Connecticut.  That means Heaven accepted 20 new little angels this morning.  If your own children haven’t heard about it, they most likely will.  Here are some tips on how to help your children handle the news of this unthinkable tragedy.

First and foremost it’s important that you settle any fears your children may have.  They are torn between the worlds of fantasy and reality, so it may be very difficult for them to tell the difference between what is real and what isn’t.  Make every effort to listen to them carefully and with 100% of your attention.  It is important that you help them feel safe and calm.  Sometimes they may fear that what happened to the children at this school will happen to them.

Minimize (if not eliminate) any news coverage or discussion about the tragedy.  The less they hear about it the better it will be for them.  Refrain from having the news on when they are present at home or in the car while you’re driving.  Too much exposure will overwhelm them and generate more fearful feelings that it could come to their school

Allow yourself to grieve privately.  Your children look to you and your feelings as a guide on how they should feel.  If you are feeling sad about this event and they notice, your children will feel sadder.  Allow yourself to grieve in private, away from your children.  Allow a friend or family member to stay with your children while you find the time to be alone to let your feelings out about this tragedy.  Avoid keeping it all bottled up inside.

Take measures to pull your family closer together over the next few days.  Cancel less important activities and create family time to help your child feel more loved.  Take measures to feel gratitude that this did not happen to your family and hold and love your children a little more than usual.  It will help to further settle your child’s fears and help you deal with the sadness we are all feeling about this tragic event.

Finally, use this occurrence to be sure that you are taking all possible measures to ensure your child’s safety where ever she goes.  It is doubtful that the families who lost children in this massacre could have done anything different to avoid what happened.  But tragedies come in all forms so take a closer look at all possible risks that could affect your child’s safety and well being.

Comments

  1. BarbaraDecember 14, 2012 at 9:32 PM

    Excellent suggestions for comfort and care. We just cannot stress enough to not allow ourselves to overdose on the disturbing details. The media has a way of sucking us in by replaying the tragedy over and over again and we must take care of ourselves now, too.

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  2. Bill CorbettDecember 15, 2012 at 4:36 PM

    You're right Barbara. I think what many of us do is continue to watch to search for that one piece of information that helps us understand why someone could do such an evil thing to innocent children and adults. We hope to find that one piece of information so we can help others to avoid such acts, or to avoid those who might fit the profile. But all to often, we discover the person who committed the act appeared to be as normal as us, previous to the tragedy. Thank you for readying.

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  3. AnonymousDecember 15, 2012 at 5:37 PM

    Excellent commenrary, Bill. The only thing I want to add is Nurture EMPATHY!

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  4. Bill CorbettDecember 29, 2012 at 2:48 PM

    Good comment Timothy. This tends to be a difficult task for some parents. The first step in parenting, in helping to nurture empathy is to STOP using "feeling stoppers" when a child brings a problem to his or her parent. Parents are too quick to "stuff" the feeling in front of them for many reasons. I urge parents to just let their kids feel the feeling they are experiencing in the moment, and to help the child process it effectively.

    Thanks for reading Timothy!

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