AKA : The Secret Loving Hand Technique Every parent knows the pain of stepping on a Lego at two in the morning — that sharp, unforgettable reminder that the kids didn’t clean up again. We’ve all been there, asking (or begging) our children to put their toys away, only to find the same mess waiting later. But what if there were a calmer, more loving way to teach kids responsibility — one that doesn’t involve nagging, yelling, or power struggles? Over the years, I discovered one of the most effective and heart-centered methods I’ve ever used. I call it the Loving Hand Technique , and it’s all about connection, agreement, and gentle follow-through. (If you'd rather listen to the podcast version of this blog post, CLICK THIS LINK now.) 1. The Two Types of Toys (and Why It Matters) When it comes to toy clutter, not all toys are created equal. I like to think of them as two types: Big, Bulky Toys These are the stuffed animals, guitars, and books — the kind of things that...
Six Laws about Kids That Parents Need to Accept Much of the frustration we experience with our children’s behavior is caused by a lack of understanding kids. Expanding our thinking about our children and accepting some basic, rudimentary facts will help us change the way we see their behavior and also change our behavior as a parent. We will be much more successful as caregivers if we see the world from our child’s point of view. Here are six irrefutable laws about kids that will change the way we use discipline. They Live Only In The Moment. Whatever the young child happens to be doing at the moment is his entire world. His full attention and focus is on the activity in front of him and he is usually unable to think about anything else unless another activity offers more incentive than the current activity. What Adults Can Do: Establish rules prior to the start of each activity Use visual timers to create limits for some activities Be patien...